Homosexuality Again

As I'm sure everyone knows by now President Obama has decided to allow homosexuals to serve openly in the military. This has caused quite a stir among some of my Christian friends and so I decided to respond to the new situation. Let me first reiterate that I believe that homosexuality is a sin, that it is condemned in scripture, and that it is undoubtedly wrong.
That being said, homosexuality is a sin, just like any other sin. Scripture clearly teaches that the consequence for all sin is the same, and that all sins are equal in the eyes of God. Romans 8, Colossians 1, and James 4 all teach that to engage in sin is to be hostile to or an enemy of God. Romans 1, 2, 3, and 9 tell us the punishment for sin and that God is preparing his wrath for the day when sin will be judged. In 1 Corinthians 6 homosexuality is placed alongside fornication, adultery, stealing, coveting, and drunkenness; and again in 1 Timothy 1 it is placed alongside lying, murder, patricide and matricide, kidnapping, and perjury.
As humans it is our wont and our want to differentiate between sins. Drunkenness is worse than lying, but not as bad as kidnapping. Adultery is worse than fornication but not as bad as stealing. However scripture makes no such differentiation when speaking from the eyes of God, it is only in our human willfulness that we find the need to say, 'see, I'm better than him so I'm ok.' As Christians we often fail to understand that sin is sin to God, the one is the same as the other, whether it is a little white lie or mass murder, they are the same. I am just as much a sinner as the man next door, and the man on death row. Our human judgments have nothing to do with the effects of sin on my spiritual life and my eternal state.
However, in American Christianity (I cannot and so will not attempt to speak for Christianity outside of the United States) we have made a few sins the scapegoats for all sinfulness, while other sins go unnoticed. Homosexuality tops the list for many Christians as one of the most heinous sins possible, along side the viewing of pornography, child molestation, and murder. We tend to look at these sins and, while many Christians may not admit it even to themselves, see them as irredeemable.
On the other hand we have allowed divorce to become the norm, often not even seen as being sinful. We take offense at many cultural cuss words while the name of God is openly taken in vain (which both Exodus 20:7 and Deuteronomy 5:11 tell us God will not fail to punish.) The American church as a whole has adopted a very unhealthy understanding of what is and is not sin and it has lead us to treat certain sins much more harshly than we should and other much more lightly. A man that I deeply love and respect made a comment about President Obama's decision that pained me greatly on this point. This man declared that he could not, in good conscience serve in the American military if homosexuals were allowed to serve openly. I wanted to ask him if he would be willing to serve beside men and women that he knew were liars, or gossips, or adulterers, or any of the other sins listed above. 'What is the difference?' I wanted to ask, what is it that makes homosexuality so much worse than any of these?
Now please do not misunderstand me, I am not arguing that we should lie down and accept the homosexual agenda that is so obviously at work in this country. However we, as American Christians, desperately need to reorient our view of sin and of sins. American Christians must come to an understanding of the open sinfulness that is so rampant throughout our churches and address it more directly instead of simply directing all of our vehemence against those few sins that it is socially correct to abhor and condemn. I make this simple request, let us begin to see sin, all sin, as sin and treat it as such, instead of singling out certain sins for special hatred.